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Perspectives

Fears and inferiorities

Ok most people that know me on social media somewhat knows my reasons for dismissing feminism as a woman supporting movement. Quite the opposite it sows a lot of hate and injustice among women in modern days. But it doesn’t need to be so 

Nevertheless it is so simply because there are issues that haven’t been correctly addressed in terms of justice and how history have formed todays society. But I am not gonna go deep in history lessons now as many of us actually know the facts and the truth about it all already. It’s  not really that we don’t know but that we know and won’t speak about what we know that is the problem. 

However it takes a lot of courage and lingual skills and techniques to adress this sensitive issues. No one wants to speak about such tough subjects as the hate between women.  And certainly no-one want to admit the truth or even be conflicted with uncomfortable facts when pretending  to not know is an option. Nor men or women want to face their guilt voluntarily really.  

However, I have noticed that men tend to be a little more direct even when they refuse to see the full perspectives or agree on the issue I am about to adress now. Which is the hate between women and in particularly between different races. Of course this differences between women makes it easier to discus with men since men are more interested in the positive aspects that benefit them. Anyhow it also make it easier to address the problem thereby and progress forth to some solution or to a higher consciousness and perspectives. That is what progress is. To increase your perspective and thereby your progress to better position. And it is after all progress that modern feminist women want inorder to achieve equality right? Then how can that be done by totally denying truth?  

As a christian woman I don’t honestly believe women and men are the same and so how can they be equal? They were created to complete each others weaknesses and strengths not become competitors. To me it is the most strange thing to resemble a man as woman. In fact I don’t think I compete with anyone at all. I have too many of my own goals and struggles to do so. And so I guess I tend to miss that not all are as free minded as some of us are and easily feel the threat when the truth happen to be outspoken by the likes of me.

As a christian woman it is not my job to degrade feminism even when I at times joke about it because I don’t agree with it. Simply because it won’t solve women’s issues. Because change requires discomfort by addressing truths and above all sacrifices. And in todays world women or feminists are not aiming to sacrifice or address the full truth with all its discomforts. So how can feminism reap what it haven’t been sowing? But I know of a savior that have sacrificed more than enough to save men and women’s pain and injustices. Unfortunately modern women are not interested in this savior at all and will ridicule it rather than understand it. They are fully capable and want to save themselves by their own means, muscles and power. 

Yet something just doesn’t add upp. I know women after all are spiritual beings, spiritual leaders and nurturers of our world but too busy competing with men on irrelevant things. A challenge they never will win. My message or point in all of this is therefore  not to disempower but to share my perspective in how women can win it by using the right means. Women’s natural strengths and gifts are more spiritual or psychological than physical. The injustice that have been created for them by the aid in their own bitterness and resentments of the hurt they got from years of abuse from ignorant men.  

So I am writing this post to help you sisters address the problem because the only way to come out of hell is through it. And since I have been through hell my self I know the owner of that place and how cruel that spirit is and how possessive it can be. I know the tools I ve used to come out of there a little bured but unhurt and untouched from the evil. Yes, I tell you I walked literary through ”the valley of death” alone and with only my faith and my tools. It was and I know it will be a challenge for you too but, that’s also all it is. That you can and will win it. The revolution happens from the inside when you face the naked truth for yourselves sisters. So I ve listed 5 supporting points to help and be guided by here below

  1. Be your self. Speak honestly and address your challenges to your self, your partner or family and friends
  2. Speak truth and face your own misdeeds towards other women. Don’t hide them and be cautious not to speak only out of hurts. But be proud of your self for knowing your strength, value and genuine relations to other genuine women.
  3. Dear ask for forgiveness (privately) and make necessary changes you need for yourself and force will work with you not against you. Because what you are against is against you and what you support supports you. Remember that that’s a rule of the universe. Start genuinely supporting someone who needs support not inorder to get praised for it but because you want to support that person from your heart. 
  4. Stop expecting men or the patriarchy or hold anyone on the opposite sex responsible to the issues you face. They know already but they also know that you don’t care enough about it your self obviously. Otherwise you would ve made a different decision. The problems you experience are there for you to develop coping skills with them or eliminate them not to dwell in them
  5. Do not compare your life with anyone  nor men or other women unless it is to help others to reach to a better level or better yet to at least your own level and know that by doing so you will automatically move up many levels of respects for your self even when no one notices of it. Trust me on this. No ones praises or confidence in you shines better than your own self confidence at the end of the day. Integrity is about self value 

Trust the process and your intuition. What is right is not always comfortable but it feels right and won’t hurt you only challenge you. 

Everything in life fixes itself when one fix oneself first. So sisters fix yourselves and you will fix the world including men by adding your own fixed strong perspectives in it. Stop trying to fix men so they can fix the world for you. They are not capable for this at all. You will only be adding more fire to the burn in hell. Heal and mend your self instead and you will heal and mend plenty more in this world 

If you need one to one coaching to cope with fear or inferiority issues that a lot of women deal with due to being undervalued or mistreated by men or other women contact me and inform me how I can contact you for a free trial session. 

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Yes to humanism! But what actually is feminism?

Yes to humanism! But what actually is feminism?

Feminism is all about women’s rights isn’t it? And although we have come a long way in the development process for equality between the sexes, one doesn’t have to be a genius to figure out that only a minmal few carefully chosen women are put in privileged positions today while the rest live under constant pressure or are totally ignored. So is feminism about liberating all women or only the very few chosen ones?  Humanism on the other hand is comprehensible and easier to understand. You either have empathy or you don’t. You are either a humanist or you are not and your actions will quickly reveal you of your claim to be one or not (although we are are all in different developmental stage off course). But the important aspect of humanism in contrast to feminism is that it is about “doing” the right thing that most of us instinctively feel deep in our core to “do”. Another definition of humanism is the realisation of the fact that all humans no matter what race, sex, lifestyle or religion are equally worth at the bottom. Well at least that is the ideal that we as society hope to achieve and yes in my opinion we  still have a whole lot more to learn and apply to our lives to obtain this. But the concept of humanism is still much clearer to use as a common goal for all. When I compare these two ideas/philosophies I still find that humanism is a much more helpful tool to use as a compass in actually attaining the ultimate equality between the sexes which feminism cant seem to bring.  The history of humanism is more established and genuinely rooted deeply in our societies as well as supported by law constitutions almost all over the world even when injustices still happen  

As a mother to a boy and a girl myself I try to constantly be aware that I give both my kids a fair chance and encouragement to realize their purpose and goals in life until they can do that for themselves. It is never to early to start engaging or helping them figure out what and how they want to spend their lives here on earth. I do know it is relatively easy not to worry so much and relax a tad bit about their life plans when they are so young. But the sooner you bring routines, order and discipline in the household the less conflicts and drama is my experience. This is probably more or less ( and maybe better or worse) like how almost all modern families carry on their lives as families I assume?

Back to my question about feminism. How does feminism as a movement serve equality to humans here today and in our families? A predictable answer is that it helps the female in a family household to find strength and be empowered by being inspired of other strong females or role models right? And since women have been and still are repressed by the patriarchal structural power, feminism undoubtedly is still serving as an ”anti patriarchal structure”. Metaphorically speaking this resembles much like initiating  a war between the sexes really. The idea is of feminism is a good intension initiated from some very courageous women in different eras of history, by which our world is greatly improved today. As a woman who battled and still battles for my own freedom from previous controlling relationships, societies expectation of me ans, I too feel the need to question my self of my role in this world as a female as well. Which I believe is the starting point for most of the feminists in history too before they geared up to battle in big or small ways and deal with their own privat matters that turned out to be an official issue in regards to equality for all women.

These women in history simply bumped into hinderances in their private lives which demanded their courage hence dealt with the issues that they shared in common with other females perhaps without knowing they were changing the games in the system. Together or individually they managed to push boundaries and limitations. To call them feminists now in my opinion is to limit and reduce these heroines down to what have become some sort of a fancy label that ”feminism” is today. ”Heroines” sounds more relevant and appropriate, at least it doesn’t put them in a box. A box that one can kidnap or buy into for seeming to appear as politically correct. This behavior is very apparent in most political campaigns and structural systems that rather talk the talk of feminism but don’t deliver any significant changes or progressive results.

Other confusing contribution to this box called feminism is off course men who call themselves feminists which really is another heading to be discussed separately in another article that I most probably will write about here soon. But I just want to point out here the ambiguous and blurred picture that feminist men add to blur the movement even further.  I understand and like many welcome the role of supporting males to the struggle women face but to call oneself a feminist as a man sounds confusing and sends warning signals to the defense department of my awareness. And the signal is repetitiv but mildly alarming me to be careful with a chap like this.  What I am trying to illustrate in words is really the difference between what the female heroines of the past did and sacrificed versus what we modern women/people are not doing. Instead of actually contributing to the movement (box) by helping in small or big ways many often just stripp the movement off its glory for own agendas and profits in order to appear as though they are

This is unfortunately what I am observing about feminism today. The thirsty need to own, associate or milk out whatever possible of the label called feminism. Few wants to give for it, to struggle for it but all want to get the glory from it. This is so apparent in our modern society both among individuals and political systems of today. It has become a hot trend that you show at social gatherings and events.  A desperate attempt to appear as more feminist than any other political party, company or individual is considered status issue.

In many political systems its gone so far that maintaining the illusion of equality by choosing a few obedient women will even discriminate men as well as other races with more merits. These chosen few womens appearance as ”role models” or ”proof” of maintaining equality in the system is a bait for younger girls to do anything for the men still in power. Contrary to the original idea of the feminism movement, now the movement kidnapped/bought of by some fake feminist patriarchal power is yet controlling women but in slyer ways using the most desperat ones

This is done mostly through manipulation or corrupted individuals coming bout to agreement in the name of ?…… yes feminism!. So instead of achieving, earning and owning their own glory women now not only serve as puppets but also mislead an entire young generation of women. to waist their lives appeasing men and being robbed of their free will and own power. Completely contradicting the values of feminism yet running under the shiny label of feminism it self. These acts of traitor-ship and double-morally conning one self by conning the masses are not only ruining the movement itself but also overlooking other competent and potential women who most likely would be better leaders for future generations. How is that equality?

An obvious example of this can be perceived in the coming US presidential vote with Hilary Clinton. Needles to say that I much prefer Clinton against Trump, but I can’t help to wonder how many other competent female leader have been ignored in favor of one woman that the system managed to present to the voters? But even more importantly this coning behaviour in politics and in general population reflects how far behind the work of equality actually is in reality and everyday life, as a pose to the classic feminism rhetorics we all hear.  This is considered to liberate women today?