I am not a feminist and I don’t ever want to be one agin! Ever!
Not because I want to defend men. They can do that by them selves if they want to. Nor do I want to be owned, controlled or spoiled by them either. But because I have come to mature and realize that I respect myself enough to call myself simply and clearly a WOMAN now. As if it was not self evident already. I don’t need extra titles, embellishments or a pronouncements given to me by institutions or others. Nor women or men need define what I am. I know already that I am a strong woman. And that is mine and only ”mine” to define. And I definitely don’t need to be saved nor by men or a group of uppset women who call themselves ”feminists”.
I am already saved spiritually thank you very much. It is not and should not be regarded as shameful to be what nature intended us to be a ”Woman”. If you don t like and you want to change that then change it. Who am I to judge you. But I tell you it is of very much virtue to be a woman actually, almost holy. To be a woman and a mother is the most rewarding experience I have ever have by far. Way above all professional tittles i have ever had and will come to have despite being a mother and a ….. w o m a n! (minus the feminist label plus a uterus and a womb)
What have changed now around me as a woman and a mother is that I have adjusted life and work routines according to mine and my highly prioritized, valuable little kids. Unfortunately something had to be sacrificed in return,,, soooo,,,,unimportant people, events, frenemies and other bagages had to go unfortunately though it was fun and games while it lasted. As for me it lasted enough to let it go. Otherwise there wouldn’t be room for this (feminist free but) fairytale like deeply satisfying purpose full life full of creativity, joy and opportunities. So the choice was obvious. Besides we are just discovering the consequences of feminism and more have to be investigated but from what I have yet detected yet its definitely not pretty at all. But thats another subject
However I don’t regard being a feminist as less worthy I just feel it doesn’t describe me whole fully anymore. I kind of have grown out of it I suppose. And why cant anyone do that? I still like to view the battling feminists out there as warriors though so it is not shameful to be a feminist either. If you are a proud feminist then be just that. But don’t go insulting others who have different views please it is class less and if not embarrassing. Be a warrior battling for your self or children or what ever you believe is worth fighting for. Because it is only you who can deliver you from whatever you are going through by making the choices that only apply to your life. No one else can truly save you so go fight your fight sister white, yellow, red or black. As long as you are here on earth alive you will have to fight always. But I highly recommend that you are thoroughly aware of what you are fighting for, about or against for your own sake
So just because you are a feminist doesn’t mean that I view you as less of a human or throw you out without cause. However disrespect me and you are out of my radar forever and ever into molecular nothingness. Other than that I really don’t have the need to diss encourage you nor anyone else of different views than my self. So go fight your fight. If you know that feminism is what you have to do now in your life ..….then by all means go ahead attain your freedom through that. I and other sisters regardless of what we call ourselves can only serve as support to you maybe even cooperate with you to a certain extent. But at the end of the day a woman should save herself first if she wants to own herself. By no mean should she give her self to feminism, masculinism or any other ”ism”. She is hers and only herself’s owner first and formost. And through her own shine enlighten the way for other women that need her light during their struggle. A blind can not lead the blind.
For me It is important that I am very clear about this statement as a woman so as to make women more aware that their expectation from political movements such as feminism is a realistic one and that they don’t get exploited by other misguided/misguiding women out there. Oftentimes by women who themselves are not equipped or ready to face reality. Or refuse to actually do the job for themselves and end up consuming others and dragging you with them in their temptingly cosy dark place called hate as well as use you to meet their own ends
Hate and revenge which is prevalent in movements such as feminism as we know is completely unproductive even when it definitely needs to initially be felt first before moving on. And moving on from hate is absolutely essential if one wants to achieve positive results. To say otherwise would be to lie or mislead and miss-use vulnerable women’s energy. And I don’t want to do that because I am 100% sure that any woman can liberate herself by herself even when getting necessary help. If I could get through to this level of peace, power and self appreciation that I gained today despite all the impediments and hell I went through (which I will properly account and address soon) then why couldn’t anyone else
And what better gift to your loved ones is there than your happiness in life? To have someone nearby who can support and spread happiness into almost every aspect of life. But like I mentioned perhaps feminism is a stage in a woman’s life and can be appreciated as such. Just don’t join on it with the expectation that the movement or its participants will liberate you. Don’t assume that they want your best. They cant. Even if they want to. You liberate your self and contribute to them/it by adding your success story that you have in common with women like your self. Thats is the right order
Feminism is simply a platform nor good or bad in my opinion. Tough you do have to be careful of your integrity, your value, your name, your identity and all that is yours alone. Because parasites are everywhere and if you let them they will consume you. So one has to set boundaries everywhere. Not because we don’t trust our friends but because we know there are users and abusers of all sorts out there to prey among the vulnerable and unprotected. Just observe how protected the business world is and how many lawyers there are out there professionally protecting others properties. And what more is more worth to protect than your and your dear ones lives and life quality? One have to protect themselves from all sorts of thieves not just material burglary but theft in regards to ones energy, time mood, purpose, creativity, productivity ans. all that is your wealth
We may be biological alike as women and humans but we are definitely NOT the same. Not everyone are as nice, or innocent as they appear or want to be. Personally I have come to the conclusion that feminism as an all encompassing movement is in deed a battle with very mixed massages, unclear causes and cloudy leaderships. (Sorry to be honest and puncture egos dear white carer, orientated feminist) But obviously the unaddressed and unsolved unfair social differences between women will always stay in the way and will undoubtably cause imbalances as well as misdirections. So we have to find other ways to unify or solve these problems first.
However in my own personal liberation struggle I have arrived to victory now. I have attained my freedom at last. My fight and adventure in life may not be over but I am at peace and free from jealous competitive bitter women as well as controlling and possessive men. Thank God. I thank and respect all the beautiful hearted people I came across along the way. Some which are there still and others not. I love those that still inspire me and all those that have and still are fighting in life to be able to see the sunny side of it. And I also thank and respect the women white, black or of any other beautiful color that have made the decision to leave hate and bitterness behind to join hands with the aim to make a better world as feminists, heroines or just as simply as virtuous women and divine mothers (minus the feminist label) 🙂