Yes to humanism! But what actually is feminism?
Feminism is all about women’s rights isn’t it? And although we have come a long way in the development process for equality between the sexes, one doesn’t have to be a genius to figure out that only a minmal few carefully chosen women are put in privileged positions today while the rest live under constant pressure or are totally ignored. So is feminism about liberating all women or only the very few chosen ones? Humanism on the other hand is comprehensible and easier to understand. You either have empathy or you don’t. You are either a humanist or you are not and your actions will quickly reveal you of your claim to be one or not (although we are are all in different developmental stage off course). But the important aspect of humanism in contrast to feminism is that it is about “doing” the right thing that most of us instinctively feel deep in our core to “do”. Another definition of humanism is the realisation of the fact that all humans no matter what race, sex, lifestyle or religion are equally worth at the bottom. Well at least that is the ideal that we as society hope to achieve and yes in my opinion we still have a whole lot more to learn and apply to our lives to obtain this. But the concept of humanism is still much clearer to use as a common goal for all. When I compare these two ideas/philosophies I still find that humanism is a much more helpful tool to use as a compass in actually attaining the ultimate equality between the sexes which feminism cant seem to bring. The history of humanism is more established and genuinely rooted deeply in our societies as well as supported by law constitutions almost all over the world even when injustices still happen
As a mother to a boy and a girl myself I try to constantly be aware that I give both my kids a fair chance and encouragement to realize their purpose and goals in life until they can do that for themselves. It is never to early to start engaging or helping them figure out what and how they want to spend their lives here on earth. I do know it is relatively easy not to worry so much and relax a tad bit about their life plans when they are so young. But the sooner you bring routines, order and discipline in the household the less conflicts and drama is my experience. This is probably more or less ( and maybe better or worse) like how almost all modern families carry on their lives as families I assume?
Back to my question about feminism. How does feminism as a movement serve equality to humans here today and in our families? A predictable answer is that it helps the female in a family household to find strength and be empowered by being inspired of other strong females or role models right? And since women have been and still are repressed by the patriarchal structural power, feminism undoubtedly is still serving as an ”anti patriarchal structure”. Metaphorically speaking this resembles much like initiating a war between the sexes really. The idea is of feminism is a good intension initiated from some very courageous women in different eras of history, by which our world is greatly improved today. As a woman who battled and still battles for my own freedom from previous controlling relationships, societies expectation of me ans, I too feel the need to question my self of my role in this world as a female as well. Which I believe is the starting point for most of the feminists in history too before they geared up to battle in big or small ways and deal with their own privat matters that turned out to be an official issue in regards to equality for all women.
These women in history simply bumped into hinderances in their private lives which demanded their courage hence dealt with the issues that they shared in common with other females perhaps without knowing they were changing the games in the system. Together or individually they managed to push boundaries and limitations. To call them feminists now in my opinion is to limit and reduce these heroines down to what have become some sort of a fancy label that ”feminism” is today. ”Heroines” sounds more relevant and appropriate, at least it doesn’t put them in a box. A box that one can kidnap or buy into for seeming to appear as politically correct. This behavior is very apparent in most political campaigns and structural systems that rather talk the talk of feminism but don’t deliver any significant changes or progressive results.
Other confusing contribution to this box called feminism is off course men who call themselves feminists which really is another heading to be discussed separately in another article that I most probably will write about here soon. But I just want to point out here the ambiguous and blurred picture that feminist men add to blur the movement even further. I understand and like many welcome the role of supporting males to the struggle women face but to call oneself a feminist as a man sounds confusing and sends warning signals to the defense department of my awareness. And the signal is repetitiv but mildly alarming me to be careful with a chap like this. What I am trying to illustrate in words is really the difference between what the female heroines of the past did and sacrificed versus what we modern women/people are not doing. Instead of actually contributing to the movement (box) by helping in small or big ways many often just stripp the movement off its glory for own agendas and profits in order to appear as though they are
This is unfortunately what I am observing about feminism today. The thirsty need to own, associate or milk out whatever possible of the label called feminism. Few wants to give for it, to struggle for it but all want to get the glory from it. This is so apparent in our modern society both among individuals and political systems of today. It has become a hot trend that you show at social gatherings and events. A desperate attempt to appear as more feminist than any other political party, company or individual is considered status issue.
In many political systems its gone so far that maintaining the illusion of equality by choosing a few obedient women will even discriminate men as well as other races with more merits. These chosen few womens appearance as ”role models” or ”proof” of maintaining equality in the system is a bait for younger girls to do anything for the men still in power. Contrary to the original idea of the feminism movement, now the movement kidnapped/bought of by some fake feminist patriarchal power is yet controlling women but in slyer ways using the most desperat ones
This is done mostly through manipulation or corrupted individuals coming bout to agreement in the name of ?…… yes feminism!. So instead of achieving, earning and owning their own glory women now not only serve as puppets but also mislead an entire young generation of women. to waist their lives appeasing men and being robbed of their free will and own power. Completely contradicting the values of feminism yet running under the shiny label of feminism it self. These acts of traitor-ship and double-morally conning one self by conning the masses are not only ruining the movement itself but also overlooking other competent and potential women who most likely would be better leaders for future generations. How is that equality?
An obvious example of this can be perceived in the coming US presidential vote with Hilary Clinton. Needles to say that I much prefer Clinton against Trump, but I can’t help to wonder how many other competent female leader have been ignored in favor of one woman that the system managed to present to the voters? But even more importantly this coning behaviour in politics and in general population reflects how far behind the work of equality actually is in reality and everyday life, as a pose to the classic feminism rhetorics we all hear. This is considered to liberate women today?